By George D. Verlander
Every
person is tested throughout his or her life, both physically and mentally. For
me, my hardest battle was cricket. How can it be that something so
insignificant be of such importance to me, tied so tightly to my happiness and
well-being? Perhaps it stems from the belief that it's the only thing I am
'reasonably good' at, or maybe it could be that it's the only thing I have in
my life that allows me at times to feel powerful, and I want to harness that, contain
it and influence it when it's most needed.
My
love for cricket has enabled my father and I to bond on many levels throughout
my youth. Throughout my sport he's always made his best efforts to be at every
game, lend advice when required and spend a fortune on equipment, petrol and
anything else necessary. During the winter months he has urged me to keep on
training, diminishing his income further on coaching classes. However, every
rose has its thorn, and although my father is one of the reasons I try to be
the best in my sport, he has at times been the pain and anguish that has been
left behind.
At
age 13, playing outside with a ball my father told me "you might as well
give up, you're **** anyway."
Consumed
by determination I was going to prove him wrong. But life, no matter how hard
you defy, sometimes always has a way of dragging you back into the ground. Just
like last year.
I
suffered my worst summer of cricket during 2012, after a long winter of feeling
prepared and ready for action. In that season however, over the course of 20
games, I feebly managed to hit a combined total of only 81 runs. I had an
average of 2 in each match. During that season my highest score was 11, with
countless 0’s that haunted my statistics. Mentally exhausted with defeat I
shutdown all sense of happiness and went to a very dark place, a place of
jealously, anger and utter hopelessness.
It’s
hard to describe how that made me feel. On the surface people take this sport
for a slow paced, uninteresting game. However, it is so much more than that. It
can break you, and has easily broken even trained professionals
psychologically. It broke me. I think the word that sums it up in reality is
'ashamed.' Ashamed of yourself that you have to constantly watch others around
you succeed, who might not necessarily put in the commitment you do, whilst at
each fleeting attempt, you fail. It appears an unreachable summit from a low
and lonely mountain base. A vicious circle that the more you fail, the more
your optimism disintegrates away, making it harder to grasp onto and reclaim.
I
was asked if I was going to give up, something that I had always said that I
would never consider. At that point I really didn't know the answer.
I
drowned in a guilty essence. Guilty that my father had spent all this money,
invested all this time into me, hoped that even if I didn’t play well I still
enjoyed my time out there – but the barrier still failed to be breached and I
just could not do it. Before going out to bat anxiety would take control, nerve
endings firing on all cylinders. I would tense up. I would go into my shell. In
the end its psychological warfare. And I was loosing.
The
one thing I had cherished for years and shaped my character finally, and I was
transformed into pure insignificance.
"Sometimes you can try so
hard at something. Sometimes you can be so prepared. And you still fail. But no
matter how great the setback. How serve the failure. You never give up. You
never give up you pick yourself up, you brush yourself off, you push forward,
you move on, you adapt. You overcome."
I
Never Gave Up.
Yesterday
I finished my last game of 2013. In that time I accomplished getting my 100th
WMCC wicket, getting 50 wickets in a season, hitting 48 fours, and1 six. I
ended with a batting average of 21 and a total of 423 runs in a season.
Furthermore, after two attempts in the past three years I successfully aided in
my team’s promotion campaign, and next year will see us in a higher division -
hungry for more.
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Despite
these personal achievements they compare little to my final accolade for the
summer. After long last, and a whole year of doubt, turmoil and tormenting I
hit my maiden half-century. I cannot say what happened, because the moment is
lost in time – a blur in the minds eye. When I cast my thoughts back to it only
silence greets me, a soft heartbeat’s echoes choosing to rebel finally against
mental chains that have for too long imprisoned me from my potential. The
beating strengthens until I faintly remember running, charging to one end only
to swiftly return and force my way back to where I came from – where I belong.
And then the silence ends, and cheers meet my curious ears, the sound a
welcoming ghost from a past life. The sweet moment dissolves from there,
vanishing into a brief instance of sheer disbelief and retribution.
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After
the previous season I was going to give up. I wanted to give up. The pain of
failure seemed to outweigh the possibility of success, and as I watched my
peers succeed it pushed me ever further to the brink. To people reading this,
and there will be many who don't understand this post, I hope that you do not
dismiss this as a rant from a moody teenager who couldn't take not being the
best. Though, you would be half right. However, I urge you to look deeper. I mean
not for this post to inform, but to inspire. Perhaps in that crowd of people
there is one person who feels the same way, who is experiencing the same thing,
and it is you for who this piece is written for.
I
have learnt that in life it is all too easy to give up. I'm not quite sure what
is was that ensured that I did not. Perhaps a combination of factors; ceasing
to feel sorry for one’s self, increasing determination and hard-work to an even
greater level, or maybe just knowing that deep down I’m not the kind of guy who
quits. If you ever find yourself in that situation, don’t stop – push forward.
"If you're in hell then keep
going" – Winston Churchill
I
have played this game enough over the years to know that this bittersweet
season won't last. It might be that the next game I play I get out first ball.
That's cricket. The game is a great leveler, and the worst player in the world
could get the best player out. That’s why I love it. In a split second on top
of the world you could fall into the abyss. Remember though, no matter how far
you fall, and how ever dark the place you're in may be there will always be the
opportunity for you to better yourself, and prove your worth.
For
now I have been reacquainted with contentment, the road to it strenuous and
cruel but through persistent leaps of faith manageable, until redemption
performs the exorcism of your demons.
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